PARENTS AND CHILDREN
by Richie Thetford
Everything we parents do influences our children. Whether we like it or not, they will become what we have trained them to be. If we are negative, sarcastic, and bitter, there is a better than even chance that our children will be that way too.
If our lives reflect the love of Jesus, our children will get the message. It will be clear because we’ll speak of Him at the supper table, in the car on the way to worship services, on family trips, and anytime the opportunity presents itself. We’ll not only speak of Him, we’ll also live for Him.
The law of Moses required the Israelites to make the commands of God an integral part of family living. They were told in Deuteronomy 6:7, “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.”
Christianity is not apt to surface in the lives of our children if their only exposure to it is at the church building on Sunday. Furthermore, its not apt to develop if the example set by the parent does not agree with what the parent teaches.
A child needs total exposure to Christian living and Christian teaching in the home because he will most likely become what he sees and hears. There’s a lot of truth in the proverb: “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).
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PARENTS WHO ARE CHRISTIANS
by Irvin Himmel
It is obvious that parents have an obligation to feed, clothe, love, protect, and care for their offspring. A newborn human is about as helpless as any creature could be. Parents who are Christians have responsibilities which extend far beyond temporal provisions. There is an area of spiritual care, training, growth, and development that demands special attention.
Parents who are Christians have an obligation to set a good example before their children. That includes a godly home life—no drugs, no tobacco, no strong drink, no profanity, and no fussing and fighting. A good example means godly living in the home, on the job, while on vacation, during recreational activities, and in all other situations. A good example includes regular attendance at Bible classes and church services. It also includes honesty, fairness, willingness to admit wrong, and readiness to forgive.
Parents who are Christians have the responsibility of disciplining their offspring. Mischievous acts that may be dismissed as “cute” in the little ones can be quite annoying to others. Those “cute” little capers, if unchecked, can establish a pattern that turns into a nightmare by the time the child is a teenager. Discipline must start early. “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6).
Parents who are Christians should teach their children right priorities. Which comes first, your personal interests or the Lord’s work? Which is more important, a child’s solving a math problem or preparing a Bible lesson? The principle taught in Matthew 6:33 is learned quickly by a child who sees that basic truth demonstrated by his mother and father. Your child needs your help in establishing the correct sense of values.
Parents who are Christians are responsible for bringing up their children to be Christians. Put your child in the tiny tots’ class on Sunday morning and teach him to sit still during worship. If you do not train him, who will? Tell him some of the great stories in the Bible. Those historical narratives about Noah, Abraham, Daniel, Moses, and others will do him more good than nursery rhymes and fairy tales. Drill him in Bible facts.
Make him conscious that there is a wealth of material in the Bible. Teach him about God and Jesus Christ. Some fathers leave the spiritual training to the mothers. But the Bible says, “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4). Daddy cannot shift his responsibility over to mother. The spiritual training of a child calls for the best efforts of both parents. Christians who are parents have much for which to be thankful. Children are “an heritage of the Lord” (Psalms 127:3). But the responsibilities of parenthood are serious. In today’s wicked world, it is not easy to bring up children in the nurture of the Lord. However, it can be done.